Nonduality does not mean 'not-duality'---that would be completely dualistic! In reality, nonduality includes (the appearance of) duality because it is everything. It is nothing (no-thing) and it is everything.
Ultimately, nonduality appears as duality. They are one and the same. Then you can't even speak of 'nonduality.'
In other words, the appearance of the wave is not a problem for the Ocean. The appearance of your life story is itself a perfect expression of Being. In this unconditional love, nothing is denied.
--- Jeff Foster